What is
my philosophy in life? I would say that my philosophy in life is to pursue what
you want to pursue despite what others say you should pursue. If you love
something or someone enough, there will be nothing that will stop you from
doing what you want to do or being with the person you love. When it comes to
people, you have to respect their boundaries. I don’t know how many times guys
have asked me out on the bus, or have violated some very personal boundaries
without getting to know me as a person. It freaks me out when guys touch me in
some intimate way or want to have sex on the first date. The rules of winning a
woman over is to move very slowly, and allow the woman to set the pace. Don’t
assume that if she is letting you touch her hair that she is ready to make out.
I had one guy take me to a dark area and rub my neck. This really turned me
off, as I don’t really know him. He then progressed to trying to French kiss
me. This was a no-no. Granted, I will no longer see this guy again due to my
fear that he will fondle or rape me, I have learned that I am not anticipating
dating anytime soon. Guys should honor this and try not to force themselves on
me, as I am not ready, nor do I think I ever be, for that serious relationship.
Really, since I have no feelings for this guy, I don’t think we can progress
much further than just fellow students studying with each other. This means no
kissing and no hugging, but it also means that I will be within my own comfort
zone and there won’t be things done that either one of us will regret.
When it
comes to pursuing your dreams, I would say to go for it as long as it truly
makes you happy. There will always be that person that chooses to be the one
that talks down to you. Don’t allow that person to discourage you from doing
the things that you love to do. Dream big, aim for the sky and shoot. The worse
that you can do when shooting for the moon is to fall short and land among the
stars. I have discovered that life is riddled with its difficulties, but these
difficulties have the power to render you a helpless, crippled , crying heap or
they can build you up into a better person, it is all in how we choose to view
life that determines whether or not we will be effective people or ineffective
bumps on a log. Don’t allow anyone’s talk bring you down, do what you love and
love what you do (just as long as what you love to do can also pay the bills).
So don’t be afraid to aim high, after all, you will be a better person for what
difficulties you undergo in life.
